Avoiding the planning, the visitation, the funeral, and the relationships and memories nurtured through those events doesn’t protect anyone from grief. Rather, it robs the mourning of the opportunity to grieve. And to be supported in their grief.
A few days after Grandma Dot passed away, we gathered as a family to “view” her at her visitation. As we walked into the room, Avery let go of my hand and ran up to the casket. Putting her little hands on the side, she pulled herself up in order to get a glimpse of what was inside.